Just some thoughts

I decided to tune in to Boys Night Out today while I drove home after a long day in school. I thought it would be the closest thing I would have to human interaction while in the car, while in traffic. To those of you who do not know, Boys Night Out is a radio show in Manila which is on every night. It starts at 6:00pm, if I'm not mistaken and lasts for about 3 hours. Anyway.. So they were entertaining callers when tuned in and the poll question was "Would you invite your ex to your wedding? An ex who you're in good terms with.". It was rather entertaining to hear callers talk about exes who were wedding crashers or callers who'd say they wouldn't invite their exes anymore to prevent causing scenes and drama.

Slick or Tony, one of the Radio Jocks that night pointed out that most of the callers were women. And one of them said that it was because this was more thought of by women because this is their "big day". I wonder if men are excited about getting married too.. Maybe they are but not in the same way as women are.. So if any guy is reading this tonight, would you kindly answer my question? "Are men excited or at least thinking of their wedding day?"

I think my answer to the poll would be, it depends..

There would be exes who you'd invite because you're in good terms.. and there would be exes that would be too hard to see during your wedding day, even if you're in good terms..

I guess it's true that one of your considerations as to whether you should invite your ex should be your partner's feelings or thoughts about it.. If it's fine, then go on.. If he isn't comfortable, then you should respect your partner's decision.. It is after all yours AND his/her day.. You should also consider what your immediate family thinks and feels about it.. Just to refrain from "drama" and unwanted wedding scenes..

Personally, I may invite some of my exes.. Except one.. The one who got my heart first broken.. It's not that I haven't moved on from the relationship or I still have feelings for the guy.. It's just that, once upon a time, I made plans with this person.. And I thought that it would be him beside me on the altar on that faithful day.. I guess I will always remember that I did once share such a personal part of me with him.. And seeing him in the crowd on the day of my wedding would just be so weird.. maybe even uncomfortable..

So yes, I am not not inviting him for anyone else but myself.. Not to prevent causing a scene or to prevent conflict with my fiance but for my own peace of mind.. On my day.. On my and my husband to be's day.. :)

So,

Would you invite an ex that you're in good terms with on your wedding day? :)

Love,
Starfire